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Not to be sound as an expert, I will just give you my experience with my wife.

My STBXW has serious attachment problems.

She used to be and probably still is desperately on the look out for an ultimate lover but she can't develop a healthy relationship with a man, no matter how good and loving he is.

This women, In their journey, get into many short relationships with many man (more than usual number) .

I had some insight on the type of men and the type of relationships which my wife carried with those men.

For these women there are three types of man.

1. The men sent from heaven to rise them to glory.

They fall in love with this kind of men at the first sight.

Mostly alpha men. Broken women have 2 or three of those man in a life time and have a chance to get close.. They idealize those men beyond reality even after they are gone and especially remembered back after another failed relationship.

It seems like everything would be fine if those women can have a long relationship or marry with those men. But being broken inside, the relationship is not fulfilling for both and can't survive.

I am going to copy acabado's insight here.

feel "weird" about female parts, doesn't masturbate, won't enjoy oral, can't orgasm... I suspect sexual abuse, which could explain her messed up understanding of intimacy/love/sex. Once you were "safe", she felt awful (intimacy is scary and unfilflling), sex was not fun anymore. Many victims of sex abuse can't enjoy "clean" sex (within a legitimate relationship). Most times it's infixable, body won't respond. The moment she f0cked OM and orgasmed after a year she finnaly could put the blame on you

This is going to be your experience with one of those broken women if you are happen to be her knight in shining armour.

She will throw herself under your feet but she will be too tense to experience any real intimacy with you, enjoy being with you.

Relationship lasts it course to the end with devaluation of the knight to the level of sancho pancho. If it comes that far, she has already cheated with some of that 2 or 3 grade men below.

2.Second grade man,
This type comes into play mostly when their primary relationship is lost its glory. They are the OM material.

They are not the ones to fall in love at first sight, They are versatile, funny, good in bed, player type mostly. They make women feel admired and cared for an hour to next.

Broken women can put herself first in their relationship with that type of man.

So the relationship is somewhat more satisfying, lasts for some time.

Still, if the type one man above in her primary relationship is still around and pull's the cords, women leaves the second grade men for the Knight in shining armour.

3. Third grade man.
This can be any ONS material. Under a good club light, after enough booze. They are really handy for a quick ego fix and when women is in her ovulation time.She just f0cks them. It can be a monkey wild sex with multiple orgasms or sex without feeling anything. Taboos are broken in these kind of sessions too. Don't beat yourself if she swallows or goes anal in one of this encounters when she didn't do it for you for years.

These three types of men can be in the picture simultaneously, messing the primary relatioship further.

You may be one of these three types of man if you have an encounter with one of these broken women. But if you are here, you are probably the number one type of man and trying to understand what hit you.

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Last edited by SweetAndSour; Today at 11:15 AM.

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